When was the last time you talked to yourself? I have asked this question to hundreds of audience in my workshops and coaching sessions. Sometimes, there is a bewildered look at the person’s face. I repeat the question, with proper emphasis- ‘When was the last time when you TALKED to YOURSELF?’. This time after a two minute silence, during which I slowly and chewingly repeat my question, the meaning sinks into the person. 90% of the time, I get a response ‘I can’t Say’.
How is it possible that when our mind is jammed with countless thoughts through the day (and sometimes in our sleep as well), we feel that we do not get time for a one-on-one session with ourselves? The reason is simple- We do not get the ‘stillness’ of mind. If our self-conscience is an ocean, thoughts are like surface winds & tornadoes, which make huge waves and perfect storms. Most of the day is spent in navigating these rough waters. If we are able to sooth these disturbances, we will be able to dive deep into this ocean to feel the undercurrents and extract invaluable nuggets at the bottom. So before you talk to yourself, get into the state of ‘stillness’ of mind.
How to get the ‘Stillness’ of mind?’ – You will not get it in one day. The best way I can suggest is to do simple meditation. You can sit in a simple & relaxed posture and just ‘watch’ (and not control) your breath. Over few days you will see that you will slowly move into a zone of stillness where its your self-conscience and your breath which are only tangible elements. Its more of a discipline as it is downright simple and there is truly no ‘technique’. If you do not ‘intellectualize’ meditation, you can learn it fast. Do share your experience in comments and I will share some more thoughts tomorrow on how to achieve stillness of mind.